Fear and Bedroom talk…

There are certain subjects that seem to have barriers when discussing them and sexual health to me seems to be one of them. But I ask myself why? Is it becuase it makes us feel vulnerable? Is it because it makes us feel like there is something wrong with us? Is it because it makes us feel different?

Talking about sexual health is nothing to feel bad about. If we don’t talk about it, we can’t get better. There is so much that we can do, but open dialogue is the first step. Let’s address the questions:

It makes us feel vulnerable- Whether you are a woman, or a man your sexuality is a part of you. It is nothing to be ashamed of. If you are not having an orgasm or able to maintain function, there often is a biological reason. Fix it. It can get better. It actually can be that easy.
Something is wrong with us-fear of the unknown- Well, your body has the regenerative capacity of nature. So, we all have this amazing power on our side. And, for women this is so complex and I think not only encompasses our anatomy, but also encompasses how we think about ourselves, our hormone levels, and our stress. For men- know that 80% of ED is vascular and 20% is neurological -there for with some simple procedures we have significant likelihood that things will get better. Blood vessel changes can happen with aging- but they can be changed. Therefore- figure it out- you don’t have anything to fear.
We are the only ones- Well I know this is not the truth. In my field of work I have found that this is actually the majority of us. Statistically (but I believe this to be underreported) for men 40% at 40 and 70% at 70 have ED. For women the prevalence for sexual dysfunction over the lifetime is over 50%. Therefore with even stats like this- we are never alone.

I think a trip to Hawaii would be so fun- but…maybe a good night sleep, energy in the day to be myself, and top it off with an orgasm is just as good if not better. And, if I can do that every day- well, who needs a vacation.

Live life. Don’t be afraid to talk about it. Discussions about sexual health are important. You are not alone if you feel this way.

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